Every kid is different and most people on here are stating what worked for them and their kid(s). Yeah spanking with a caveman mentality is not a good thing put measured punishment to correct something can be a useful tool.Spanking is for cavemen, and “muh daddy spanked me, so imma spank junior” is such laziness.
Seems to me that we should be striving to raise our kids better than our parents did us. But hey, that’s just me.
This is what I was trying to say when I said its almost like they want it...I actually feel like they listen better after you do it instead of them screaming at you and screaming over you. It’s a reset button and lets them know how serious you are. Then comes the talking, teaching, and I love you’s.
So sorry to hear of this tragedy. I lost a sister in a tragic accident when I was 5 - she was three and a half. It was devastating to my family, and unfortunately probably one of the catalysts to the end of my parents' marriage (although there were many other, more rooted problems).My wife’s cousin was getting ready to go camping. Went out to move the car to load it and didn’t know his youngest toddler followed him out the door. He ran over her killing her. It’s been a very, very heart wrenching week and has certainly made me rethink a lot of things. Hug your little ones as often as possible and be diligent about where they are and your surroundings.
When you mentioned the tablet do you mean like an iPad? If so I really can’t stress enough that at the age of 2 that shouldn’t even be an option. If it is being used, it should be very limited with adult supervision. There is just too much that can be impressed on a child at that age.
Don’t beat yourself up over loosing your cool. The important part is you recognized it and can fix it. Take the time to apologize to your daughter about it. We all make mistakes and the longer I’m a parent the more I realize I mess up a lot.
Being consistent will pay dividends in the long run.
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I couldn’t disagree more. Pain is the lowest common denominator understood by the lowliest invertebrates, all the way to man. If your child doesn’t understand there is swift and certain consequence for bad behavior, they’ll always push. I don’t try to reason with the dog, so why would I reason with a 3 year-old? The dog at least knows not to shit on the floor.Don't spank your kids, it is a short term solution that has long term repercussions. setting rules/boundaries that are age based, and taking the time to enforce the non-violent consequences takes a lot more effort but in the long run will raise great kids.
You need to be the adult, and that means calming yourself and not bringing yourself down to their level. In the long run a tantrum doesn't matter.... they are actually being age appropriate! Just wait til they turn 3- way harder than 2 yrs.
Whatever, glad I’m not your kid or dog. Sounds like some control issues….I couldn’t disagree more. Pain is the lowest common denominator understood by the lowliest invertebrates, all the way to man. If your child doesn’t understand there is swift and certain consequence for bad behavior, they’ll always push. I don’t try to reason with the dog, so why would I reason with a 3 year-old? The dog at least knows not to shit on the floor.
Spanking isn’t about losing your temper. It’s the ultimate demonstration of doing what’s necessary while showing restraint. I tell my kids to go wait for me in their room and I go cool off before I go in and give them a measured spanking. They know to take their swat because they’ll get the un-cooled-off dad if they challenge my commands.
3 words: Ask. Tell. MAKE. I ask them to do something. If they don’t immediately do it, I tell them firmly to do it. If they aren’t motivated at that point, I begin to motivate. They learned that being motivated by dad really sucks.
My kids nearly snap to attention when I walk in the room. It’s not fear, it’s respect. Oddly enough, they are closer to me than their mother because she, and her version of parenting, has put her in the sibling/friend zone vs the boss. Humans are pack animals too.
Don’t fear leading your family. It doesn’t take much. Again, pain is as basic as it gets. If they learn early what leads to pain, they’ll avoid it. I’m talking three or four spankings was all my kids needed to learn that it sucked. When they see the pre-attack indicators, they self regulate.Whatever, glad I’m not your kid or dog. Sounds like some control issues….
Ours too. I'm convinced that they're more inclined to fly off the handle with their already uncontrollable baby emotions because they've reacted with screaming and crying from the start and thats all they know. I could be wrong but my wife and I have discussed this extensively.I'm following.
Our daughter was a colic baby. She will be 2 next month. I was hoping we suffered enough already but the terrible 2s are here. I don't have any answers