Well said, and spot on.Not trying to start shit here man, so take this for what it’s worth.
Some people just can’t have one or ten. I know some people who don’t drink that I would not want to **** with on my best day and their worst day. Not drinking does not make someone a pussy or a coward, it’s a personal thing. Some people just go bat shit and can’t control it, want to fight the whole world and then burn it down when they’re done pissing on it.
I’ve witnessed people lose all self control, beat up their best friends, rip a line of blow off the dash board then go screw up their relationship or marriage because….. well they got shit faced drunk. It’s a pretty shitty site at times, especially when your the one that ends up running damage control come sun up.
If you don’t want to quit and you can handle your liquor good for you man, but some are just possessed and out of control.
a big motivation for me besides the obvious was I had just started dating my now wife of 13yrs in a month, I worked out of town, and out of state sometimes commercially diving sea urchins… I wasn’t worried about messing up myself, which is probably a bad attitude anyways, because drinking a lot and often is asking for it, even though I thought I could handle that aspect… you can, until the right set of scenarios lines up and you’re hammered… I have seen it too many times.
the main thing for me was I knew the chance of our relationship working out were not great if I’m out of town more than in town and drinking every night after work, I didn’t want her having to worry about it… drinking is probably the demise of over half failed relationships (a big factor at least)
i’m lucky I didn’t kill myself, doing what I did for work, can’t really afford to be off your game, and I remember plenty of mornings waking up not sober, getting ready, going out in the ocean, jumping into 46* water in a wetsuit, and having hot flashes for the first couple hours of the day in cold ass water… pretty crazy looking back at how reckless I was for a time period.
I think some people don’t have their lives too negatively effected drinking, and don’t overdo it day in and day out… I wasn’t one, I was going for it nightly.
it seemed fun at the time, but looking back it really wasn’t, it just made mornings rough, and I would constantly embarrass myself… not really bad, but more “I really did that/said that to so and so last night?”
I have seen a lot of friends do a lot of dumb **** too, and a bunch of relationships ended directly related to drinking.
I agree with you, some people can handle it just fine, some people don’t have a problem with alcohol, but drink pretty often often… there are times I wish I could have a good ipa with dinner, or a good margarita, but I know myself, and it’s not worth it to me… I have way too much at stake these days, and getting back into a drinking habit is not happening… it’s nice to not have that complication in life FOR ME